Hurtful Lies

February 12, 2016

Today was a dreary, overcast day. My body is still sore from the aquarium day trip, and my feet are giving me more trouble than usual. I would try to make an appointment with the Veteran hospital to see my physician, but it’s too much of a bother. I’ll research some essential oils for my feet or other home remedies.

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Nothing eventful occurred today. I did get to see both of my sisters at the same time, which is rare for us. Each of our lives are so consumed with our kids and job, that we rarely have a time where we can all come together. It wasn’t planned either.

My nephew is spending the weekend with us, and my younger sister has a newborn, so I thought it would be good if I picked up my oldest nephew from my sister’s house. During the hour I was there, my older sister had a two hour break between her shifts and decided to visit my younger sister, too (her job is near my younger sister’s house). For a brief twenty minutes we were able to catch up on the latest news with my dad. It was brief, but enjoyable.

On the way home, I swung by my husband’s work and gave him a ride home. He has his own car, but sometimes it’s nice to drive him home. It’s a way to give him a break from the long traffic-induced commute. It made the drive better, and relieved some stress from the day.

There is one thing that has been eating away at me for the last week. Someone has been lying about me to a particular someone else, and it’s getting back to me. I’m not sure what to do about it. Naturally, it’s not true so I shouldn’t worry about it, but it’s hurtful that the person believing the lies would believe me to be inconsiderate, selfish, and thoughtless. Anyone who truly knows me, knows this is not true.

However, I want to speak up for myself, and ask this person why they would believe such lies. Why wouldn’t they come to me, and ask me what is going on? Hurtful indeed.

I spoke to my grandmother about it. We have spoken several times over the week about it. Her giving me advice, and me telling her what I think of it. She’s upset about it, too, because she knows it’s lies as well. We also agree not to confront this person telling the lies and the person believing the lies because it will cause more trouble than needed. This may be true, and will cause more trouble which I’m not willing to do right now. I’ll wait until the time has passed, and see how I feel about it in the future.

For now, I’ll pray about it, and wait for guidance on my next steps.

Thank goodness it’s Friday! It’s Taco Night for the Clevingers followed by game night. It’s much needed fun for all of us after a stressful week.

Playing a family game of Bingo. My sister is sooooo jealous right now. 😝😆 #bingo #family #gamenight

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Disclaimer: Please understand that everyone is different in their journey with fibromyalgia and/or chronic illness. This is my journey, my stories, my vulnerability to share with you in order to help in some way. It is in no way to compare my journey with yours or to minimize your pains, feelings, or experiences. Please do not comment with any negativity.

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Brandi

Hi, I’m Brandi, the writer and creator of Being Fibro Mom and My Fibro Journal. Aside from my work on Being Fibro Mom, I run a group called Fibro Parenting on Facebook. I've been writing for the Fibromyalgia Magazine since 2016 and recently became the Secretary and Fibro & Families program director for International Support Fibromyalgia Network. Facebook-+-Twitter-+-Instagram

2 thoughts on “Hurtful Lies

  • February 14, 2016 at 3:44 am
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    I am so sorry to hear that. I find myself defending myself quite a bit which shouldn’t be the case. I feel the same way as you. If my friends know me, they wouldn’t think that or come up with just crazy ideas. I knew that they had already formed an opinion and told one of them. Please call me when you can be unbiased about my situation. I told her, that I hope that one day instead of having these concerns that had no warrant or basis, that she would turn it into encouragement for me and tell me how proud she is of me for making it this far. I hope everything smooths over for you. I will pray for you. I just find it so difficult balancing fibro and motherhood especially since I’m a single mom. It just isn’t easy. At the moment, I’m trying to build my self confidence back up. I think very low of myself right now. I’m just not like I used to be and it hurts.

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    • February 15, 2016 at 7:13 am
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      Yes, it should be turned into encouragement! That’s a great way of saying it. I know it will get better with time, but for now I continue to struggle. I will also pray for you and your healing. Thank you for your comment, and sharing your experiences.

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